WOW, Roses do Smell Nice

First of all, I encourage you to only read this post when you have some free time…I’m breaking some blogging rules and am calling for some web interaction here and I think it sends a better message if you take your time and think about it for a minute or two....

Below are two links. One is to an article, the other is to a short video clip (I recommend reading the article first... come on its short). To be honest, I’m not sure how much I am going to ponder here but none the less I just wanted to bring this lecture to your attention if you haven’t already caught it somewhere else. Some food for thought. In fact, I first heard this in a business class, and it was a good reason to day dream through the rest of the hour and half. I think sometimes we miss the big picture of things and I thought this could be used to check up on our priorities… its too easy to get caught up and loose sight of the important things… plus, I have been told that I am always on the go and trying to get so much into one day that I sometimes forget to “stop and smell the roses”… this article did just that …. So take a whiff….

Professor delivers passionate 'last lecture'

First the obvious… Hows our bad day look??? I wish I had half the courage Dr. Pausch has…to be put into a situation where your life is practically a countdown and deliver with such a positive attitude filled with humor and encouragement can only be described as … Priceless (thanks visa;). But seriously, how many of us could really do that, and I don’t mean the push ups. Geez I mean I get frustrated when there are dirty dishes in the sink or when there is nothing to eat in the house … or even with the people I love. Take a second and reread some of the things he talks about … "Brick walls are there for a reason. They let us prove how badly we want things." He encouraged us to be patient with others. "Wait long enough, and people will surprise and impress you." Funny isn’t it, a man whose days are numbered is encouraging us to “be patient and wait.” You would think that he would have got up there preaching to pull a Time McGraw … sky dive and ride that fucking bull named Fumanchu!!! But he approached it in an entirely different way, almost to slow down and be patient with the ones you love, or the ones trying to love you. The most precious gift you can give anyone is simple to me and that’s “your time”. Timing is everything in life, whether it be in sports, business, or relationships. So just make sure you see who your giving your time to and who is giving theirs, because you can’t get it back. There is no “one” Message here … but I think we can all apply it to something in our lives. I mean I encourage you to find your brick walls in life and knock’em down…don’t just stand there looking up, whatever they may be. But don’t forget to enjoy it … common cliché time … its not about the destination its about the journey. My point is … don’t get caught up in all the petty BS that life brings you. Cherish the relationships in your life and don’t forget to listen every once in a while … listen hard enough … you might be surprised what your hearing, whether its advice or another door knocking when one closes. I know im not giving the deepest advice or saying something genius here…. but maybe we should all take some of life’s so called problems and put’em in quotations…

A little extra.

You Can't Just talk .... you've gotta touch

So im hanging out after another eventful weekend up at penn state and I figured I might as well jot some ideas down since a lot has been happening lately. Of course, starting with the obvious, my relationship with my girlfriend has recently come to an end. And to say the least, it’s been tough. But as I was thinking about it and surfing the web, I rolled across something that sparked this entry and title .... I came across an article about John Rocchio and his wife Emelia. What is notable about this married couple is that they hold the record for one of the longest marriages ever, 86years. I stopped and thought about that and then realized that it’s longer than most people live. Then, I applied it to my experience after being in a relationship for four years (give or take.) Emilia was asked how she still stays passionate and what is the secret to a relationship ... Keeping in mind she has been married since shes been 17 ... and she responded no matter how old you are "You can't just talk, you've gotta touch,” I love it!! Think about that, whats great about that answer is the simplicity of it but at the same time says so much. You see this really sparked my interest because I think it mirrors my opinion for relationships. I used to only preach the concept of communication... but then i ran out of breath. Talking the talk is easy........ Im going to get all A's this semester, never drink another heavy beer so i can make better gains lifting, and I promise I'll never laugh at the expense of others....... see i can do it too. But anway, my point is that communication is important but it can never substitute for compatibility. The "I love you" is great, it communicates a feeling, not necessarily your action. You see I think a relationship should be a journey not just looked at as a destination. I was talking to Bobby the other day and I brought up a silly question in which in return got one of those looks from him like I just introduced him to my imaginary friend Ronnie. I asked him if we didn't want sex why would we ever get married. I mean wouldn't I just hang out with my best friends all day because it always seems that Im having a good time with them. But seriously I thought of my own answer to this. The point of a relationship is to grow, not only with eachother, but as individuals. How can you love someone else if you aren't happy with yourself? Its challenging and therefore rewarding. If there was no element of surprise would it be interesting? When you ask someone if they like surprises they are going to answer with a smiling yes......bullshit, you only like surprises when its in your favor, a surprise that sucks is defined as a problem. A relationship is alive and passionate, or atleast it should be. You should always be growing, growing results in progress, progress encourages you to want more and be happier. I want my relationship not to be defined as two people being in love ... rather their passionate. Both physcially, spiritually, and mentally and whatever -ally you can think of. It shouldn’t be forced, Im not saying you’re not going to have any speed bumps, but it should work without you almost not realzing what your doing. You see, a relationship gives you a chance to face your fears, experience the inability of control and only then will you feel alive. And when you’re alive you have more to offer to your job, hobbies, and others. My point is when have you ever seen someone at their lowest, or when have you ever seen someone at their highest, where its like their on a drug and every step they take is magical. Its when they’re in a relationship. It provokes more feelings that we as humans can’t describe or simulate any other way. My point is to go and get dirty and get psyched for passion and growth. If you don’t have it yet…..no problem, go and find it. if you’re in a relationship... transform it into something magical. and if your struggling... dont be afraid to take a step back so you can start over and get a fresh start. But most importantly have fun, and enjoy the people in your life. Don’t fall under the standards of the average person when they say that its not possible to always be happy. I mean if we are measuring ourselves to the average attitude out there, well … forget it, that’s another entry lol.

Writers Blog

Well, the time has come. I have often talked about writing a book and titling it “The Book I Never Wrote.” But after the lack of motivation and the discouragement from a friend of mine (not to mention any names josh lol) I have been forced to blog. So I only find it appropriate to title it “The blog I Never Wrote.” To be honest I've always thought of this title as one of my genius ideas so on that note … hell of a job Brian on the title, very creative.

To be honest, I have no idea what this blog is actually going to be about. I could cover an array of subjects, from golf (which no one cares about but me pretty much), to relationship thoughts or just responses to a cyber friend Rico. Honestly, Im not sure if I want this blog to be serious, funny, or used as a reference to better some part of my life. Hence the title .... Writers Blog.

Hey I guess it could be worse, I could run the clock out when playing my friends in a madden video game in the start of the third quarter just to win by 3.... anyway stay tuned