You Can't Just talk .... you've gotta touch

So im hanging out after another eventful weekend up at penn state and I figured I might as well jot some ideas down since a lot has been happening lately. Of course, starting with the obvious, my relationship with my girlfriend has recently come to an end. And to say the least, it’s been tough. But as I was thinking about it and surfing the web, I rolled across something that sparked this entry and title .... I came across an article about John Rocchio and his wife Emelia. What is notable about this married couple is that they hold the record for one of the longest marriages ever, 86years. I stopped and thought about that and then realized that it’s longer than most people live. Then, I applied it to my experience after being in a relationship for four years (give or take.) Emilia was asked how she still stays passionate and what is the secret to a relationship ... Keeping in mind she has been married since shes been 17 ... and she responded no matter how old you are "You can't just talk, you've gotta touch,” I love it!! Think about that, whats great about that answer is the simplicity of it but at the same time says so much. You see this really sparked my interest because I think it mirrors my opinion for relationships. I used to only preach the concept of communication... but then i ran out of breath. Talking the talk is easy........ Im going to get all A's this semester, never drink another heavy beer so i can make better gains lifting, and I promise I'll never laugh at the expense of others....... see i can do it too. But anway, my point is that communication is important but it can never substitute for compatibility. The "I love you" is great, it communicates a feeling, not necessarily your action. You see I think a relationship should be a journey not just looked at as a destination. I was talking to Bobby the other day and I brought up a silly question in which in return got one of those looks from him like I just introduced him to my imaginary friend Ronnie. I asked him if we didn't want sex why would we ever get married. I mean wouldn't I just hang out with my best friends all day because it always seems that Im having a good time with them. But seriously I thought of my own answer to this. The point of a relationship is to grow, not only with eachother, but as individuals. How can you love someone else if you aren't happy with yourself? Its challenging and therefore rewarding. If there was no element of surprise would it be interesting? When you ask someone if they like surprises they are going to answer with a smiling yes......bullshit, you only like surprises when its in your favor, a surprise that sucks is defined as a problem. A relationship is alive and passionate, or atleast it should be. You should always be growing, growing results in progress, progress encourages you to want more and be happier. I want my relationship not to be defined as two people being in love ... rather their passionate. Both physcially, spiritually, and mentally and whatever -ally you can think of. It shouldn’t be forced, Im not saying you’re not going to have any speed bumps, but it should work without you almost not realzing what your doing. You see, a relationship gives you a chance to face your fears, experience the inability of control and only then will you feel alive. And when you’re alive you have more to offer to your job, hobbies, and others. My point is when have you ever seen someone at their lowest, or when have you ever seen someone at their highest, where its like their on a drug and every step they take is magical. Its when they’re in a relationship. It provokes more feelings that we as humans can’t describe or simulate any other way. My point is to go and get dirty and get psyched for passion and growth. If you don’t have it yet…..no problem, go and find it. if you’re in a relationship... transform it into something magical. and if your struggling... dont be afraid to take a step back so you can start over and get a fresh start. But most importantly have fun, and enjoy the people in your life. Don’t fall under the standards of the average person when they say that its not possible to always be happy. I mean if we are measuring ourselves to the average attitude out there, well … forget it, that’s another entry lol.